A forum post that is selected by the editor to provoke argument for its extreme stand. Is a female a lesser creature than a male?
Gender equality or old Asian values?
THE population dearth is indeed a desperate situation which requires desperate measures. Are Singaporeans prepared to face the desperate truth, which is that the Singapore identity and culture that we were debating not long ago is fast becoming extinct? In recent years, Singapore has had to ‘fake’ its population by opening the floodgates to foreigners.
I agree with Mr Thomas Ling (‘Tackle the problem not the symptoms’, Aug 20) that upping financial incentives and maternity, paternity or childcare leave is barking up the wrong tree. This illustrates the adage that money cannot buy everything. Much reflection is needed on attitudes to life, career and relationships.
For one thing, young women today are almost totally lacking in fu dao (the way of women), a Confucian ethic. According to Confucius, ‘a woman should serve her family first and herself last‘. Young women today are too arrogant, too loud and don’t even know how to sit properly. It makes one wonder about their parents and shudder at the thought of them becoming mothers.
Give the men a break. Changing nappies is a woman’s job. Men are made for greater things than this. You wouldn’t ask a woman to carry a tonne of bricks, would you? Girls have to be taught their domestic duties and women have to be more hardworking at home. Girls should not grow up thinking the home is not their responsibility.
It is best for women to sacrifice a few years of their working life to nurture their families. Men, too, should be made more accountable on their role as breadwinners. This will create a win-win situation for all parties, including employers and children.
Our neighbourhoods are cold these days because of the absence of chatting mothers and mingling children.
In Chinese philosophy, women are yin and men are yang. They are complementary but not equal. When their energies are not balanced, there is disharmony.
A country that was built on Confucian ethics should perhaps rebuild on Confucian ethics. Unfortunately, this will not create the instant results we need. However, whatever is worth having will not come easily.
Jennifer Wee (Ms)
Article obtained from Straits Times on 28th Aug 2008
We have an excellent comment from Waterbutt, who has written what I am feeling.
Samsui women carried tonnes of bricks.
The Confucian ethics were founded when society was extremely partriarchical. It is unfair to apply these outdated ethics against women today. For years, women have been looked down upon as we are constantly relegated by men to domestic duties. Basically, women have been oppressed for centuries.
It is shocking that a woman in the modern world like Jennifer Wee actually dares to consider the ultra sexist confucian ethics for women as a suggestion to help singapore’s declining birth rate. Frankly, she has disgraced women all around the world, especially women who have fought against all odds for emancipation of their sex.
Just because women have less testosterone (hence less muscles), does that mean they are not allowed the same and equal opportunities as men?
I am still VERY appalled by Jennifer Wee’s suggestion and though it is not very clear from the way it is written, I really hope that she had it written in a sartorical voice. Otherwise, such mentality is a humongous and sad backstep for the ongoing and tough emancipation of women.
Comment obtained from Straits Times on 28th Aug 2008





